Gay Marriage

GOP and Marriage Equality

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The Supreme Court put an end to the marriage equality question and legalized it in all fifty states. In reply, the GOP Candidates for President collectively lost their heads. Scott Walker is calling for a Constitutional Amendment as well as saying the Supreme Court really didn’t have the power to do this. (Don’t any of these guys actually read the Constitution?) Bobby Jindal is calling to abolish the Court, while Mike Huckabee is calling for a revolution.

This is why I still can’t vote Republican. They are not the party of ideas. They are not the party of progress. They are the party of pandering. 60% of Republicans are against marriage equality, while 60% of the nation is for it. When that many people are against, what else can they say?

The sad part of this is that one of the far right, no new ideas candidates will become the GOP’S candidate for President. Any Democrat will look like a far left socialist in comparison. The GOP is the party of my youth. I loved Nixon and, had I been old enough, I would have supported Reagan. I admire Eisenhower and, next to Lincoln, Theodore Roosevelt is my favorite President. But, men like them can never lead the Republicans again. They were men of strong convictions and intellect.  They valued learning. Now, we have Scott Walker who couldn’t make it through college and doesn’t understand how the Supreme Court has the right to knock down unconstitutional laws. This is who the GOP wants running the country?

The GOP’S tired Gays, Guns, and God bit has to go. Not just in Presidential Candidates, but throughout all their politicians. The way Congress has spent the last six years fighting President Obama on every issue is insane. Their policy of repeating the same tired vote to eliminate the ACA is insane. Their calls for even lower taxes of the wealthy and corporations is insane. They refer to Social Security as an entitlement like it’s a bad thing. Jeb Bush blames single moms for welfare and pretty much the GOP follows along, totally ignorant to the fact that welfare doesn’t work that way anymore and hasn’t in almost twenty years. Walker, that bastion of no intellect is gutting the education of the state of Wisconsin.

Should I go on?

What I don’t understand is how any reasonable, intelligent adult could support the Republicans. How could you look at the problems of today and still support this group of men from the past?

The thought of it is insane.

$4,800.00

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Today is National Coming Out Day. I don’t celebrate it. I mean, who else is left for me to tell I’m a lesbian? My entire family knows, as do my friends, and my employer knew from day one – when I put a picture of Cheryl on my desk. Personally, I think this day should be National Stay Home Day. I think missing the 36 million gay Americans at work and school would make a larger impact, as we are everywhere.

Anyway, because of my feelings, I’ve decided to write about the $4,800.00 that will no longer be in my pocket once I cover Cheryl’s health insurance via my company’s domestic partnership policy. This is not money that pays for the insurance itself – this is the taxes taken straight from my paycheck because Cheryl and I cannot legally marry in our state and even if we could, the Federal Government won’t recognize it.

$4,800.00 may not sound like a lot of money, but think about the things we won’t be able to do with that money. $4,800.00 works out to $400 a month. That’s a car payment. $400 a month is ten tanks of gas. It’s ten visits to restaurants in Racine. It’s books and toys for our grandchildren. One month’s amount is a new smart phone.

Taxing my insurance coverage for Cheryl,  while not taxing a straight, married co-worker’s insurance coverage for their spouse isn’t right. It’s unfair taxation.

$4,800.00 a year will raise the total federal taxes on my income to over $12,000 a year. This is well above Mitt Romney’s tax rate of 14%.

I wonder how the people in charge can sleep at night by overtaxing American citizens. I know people who claim that I shouldn’t be a one issue voter, but they don’t get it. This isn’t just about receiving a legal document – this is about taking money out of my pocket unfairly and unjustly.

Chick fil-a & Rights

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Unless you live under a rock, you’ve probably heard about the chicken company’s anti-gay marriage stance. If you’re on Facebook, you’ve probably been bombarded with images either in support of or against Chick-fil-a and its President, Don Cathy.
Here’s the thing those supporting the chicken company won’t tell you: this isn’t about Mr. Cathy speaking his mind. This is about Mr. Cathy and his company giving more than $3 million to anti-gay hate groups.  This isn’t new, no matter how much the supporters of the chicken company wants you to believe.
And, this isn’t gays picking on poor Mr. Cathy because he spoke his mind. We’re all for free speech. Mr. Cathy wants to hate gays – fine, let him. If he wants to give money to hate groups I have no problem with that, either. However; when he gives that money out of his company’s coffers, he is taking the money his customers gave him for their purchases. I don’t want money that I worked hard to earn going to support groups that want to outlaw my way of life. When there are other companies out there that make chicken better than Chick-fil-a, why would I spend my money there?
Now, I try hard not to shop or support companies and businesses that disagree with my beliefs.  I don’t shop at Wal-Mart. I try to shop locally and stay away from National chains as much as possible. I try to purchase American made products. I try to purchase green products. Do I always succeed? No, I don’t. I don’t think anyone can, unless they’re completely self-supporting, grow their own food and make their own clothes.
If you want to make your own decision and keep eating from the chicken company – go right ahead. No one is stopping you.
But, don’t believe for one second that Chick-fil-a is some sort of victim in all of this, because they’re not. The gays didn’t come out and attack them first.
And, one more thing : I should admit that I’ve only eaten there once in my life. I honestly thought it sucked, so this is one boycott I’m happy to support – I had no intention of eating there ever again.

Gay Marriage: Not a Single Issue

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A good friend of mine posted on a Facebook status regarding gay marriage and voting that some people don’t just vote a single issue. Now, he’s a little misguided because I know plenty of people on the right that vote Republican solely because they’re anti-abortion. And, I know plenty of people who voted Democratic because they were against the war in Iraq. Quite frankly, I agree with my friend: one shouldn’t vote just one issue.

But, when you’re gay, gay marriage isn’t a single issue. It affects nearly every single issue out there for gays and lesbians.

Point 1: Taxes. Everyone complains about how much they pay in taxes.  If you’re a straight married couple with no kids, making what Cheryl and I make, you pay around $1000 less in Federal income taxes than Cheryl and I do. Between the two of us, we paid more than $10,000 in federal income taxes – roughly 16% of our joint income. This means we paid a higher percentage than Mitt Romney.
The Republican tax plan? It will cost us a lot more, while lowering taxes on people who all ready pay less than we do and, I’m ignoring the other items, like lowering taxes of the rich.
You want tax equality? Let the gays get married.

Point 2. Social Security. I earn a substantial amount more than Cheryl. Therefore, I pay more into Social Security than she does. If we were allowed to legally marry, she could apply for Social Security under my name. However; because we’re not legally married, she can’t.  She, also, won’t receive any death benefits if I happen to die first – unlike her legally married, straight counterparts.  In the land of equality, this stinks. A man can marry a woman, stay married for ten years and divorce her and she can file for his Social Security. That same man can marry another woman, stay married for ten years and wife #2 gets a piece of his Social Security pie. His benefits are never reduced. 

Point 3. Healthcare. Taxes. If I take my employer provided healthcare benefits for Cheryl, like millions of straight married couples do all over the country, I will pay income taxes on the employer cost of said healthcare. You want to fix healthcare in this nation? Start by eliminating the domestic partner taxes on healthcare.

See, I’m not asking for special rights. I am demanding equality. The right wing yammers on and on about fairness and freedom, but it’s just talk. They don’t believe in equality. 

Further, there are more issues than just these three that is affected by one’s marital status. Gay marriage may not be important to straight people, but it is literally the most important issue to gay people. It affects everything about our lives.

If you care one iota for your gay friends and family, you’ll vote Democratic this fall. Until we’re all equal, none of us are equal.

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Why Homosexuality Should be Banned

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I saw the video below on YouTube.  You should check it out.  Also, I found this interesting, the ad that appears when I view the video is for Mark Neumann, who is running for Governor here in Wisconsin.  Just added yet another reason not to vote for him.  Remember, a vote for either Neumann or Walker is a vote against your gay and lesbian friends.  A vote for Ron Johnson is a vote against your gay and lesbian friends (not to mention the environment).

The video is a tongue-in-cheek look at why people don’t like gays and lesbians, but Johnson, Walker and Neumann are flesh and blood gay haters.  Johnson, also, doesn’t care about those who are unemployed and he refers to people who believe in global warming as crazy.

Do we really want these men representing Wisconsin?

The Truth Behind NOM

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A fantastic, well written and well directed video that parodies the National Organization for Marriage’s Storm Ads.  I found this video when I was uploading my video on NOM’s South Carolina “rally”.

NOM’s South Carolina Picnic

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In other words, what if someone threw a hate rally and only 28 people showed?

By the way, I’m loving the Bilerico Project site. Not only is it a well-written and researched site, but they give me great ideas when I’m stumped!

I know this is short, but it is funny – even if I do say so myself.

Enjoy!