gay rights

Commuting with Julie – Donald Trump and the Gays…Plus, kitten video…

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I’m calling Donald Trump out on his lie to the American people regarding the rights of LGBTQ.  He said, “I will do everything in my power to protect our LGBTQ citizens from teh violence and oppression of a hateful foreign ideology.  Believe me.”

Oh, you can believe him.  He’ll keep the foreign hate away, but he is running on a GOP Platform that is (according to the AP) “farther away from gay rights than past years.”  He’s not going to stop the hate, bigotry, and harm committed against the LGBTQ community.

Sad, isn’t it?

Also, video of Ella, because she’s a kitten.


Chick fil-a & Rights

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Unless you live under a rock, you’ve probably heard about the chicken company’s anti-gay marriage stance. If you’re on Facebook, you’ve probably been bombarded with images either in support of or against Chick-fil-a and its President, Don Cathy.
Here’s the thing those supporting the chicken company won’t tell you: this isn’t about Mr. Cathy speaking his mind. This is about Mr. Cathy and his company giving more than $3 million to anti-gay hate groups.  This isn’t new, no matter how much the supporters of the chicken company wants you to believe.
And, this isn’t gays picking on poor Mr. Cathy because he spoke his mind. We’re all for free speech. Mr. Cathy wants to hate gays – fine, let him. If he wants to give money to hate groups I have no problem with that, either. However; when he gives that money out of his company’s coffers, he is taking the money his customers gave him for their purchases. I don’t want money that I worked hard to earn going to support groups that want to outlaw my way of life. When there are other companies out there that make chicken better than Chick-fil-a, why would I spend my money there?
Now, I try hard not to shop or support companies and businesses that disagree with my beliefs.  I don’t shop at Wal-Mart. I try to shop locally and stay away from National chains as much as possible. I try to purchase American made products. I try to purchase green products. Do I always succeed? No, I don’t. I don’t think anyone can, unless they’re completely self-supporting, grow their own food and make their own clothes.
If you want to make your own decision and keep eating from the chicken company – go right ahead. No one is stopping you.
But, don’t believe for one second that Chick-fil-a is some sort of victim in all of this, because they’re not. The gays didn’t come out and attack them first.
And, one more thing : I should admit that I’ve only eaten there once in my life. I honestly thought it sucked, so this is one boycott I’m happy to support – I had no intention of eating there ever again.

Workplace Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

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I once had a boss tell me to stop talking about being gay.  I was confused by his request.  I rarely discuss being gay while at work. I had a couple of co-workers tell me that I was full of gay pride. More confusion.

It turns out in both cases my gay pride and my talking about being gay stemmed from the fact that a picture of Cheryl sits on my desk and if you ask me what I did this past weekend,  I’ll answer in the plural.

There are a lot of people who claim that they “support” gay rights, but we should just shut up about being gay.  To these people, a discussion that includes a mention of my wife counts as “gay talk”, but a discussion about their wife doesn’t count as “straight talk”.

This morning, I didn’t say a word to my co-workers other than a cheerful good morning. Every single one of them mentioned either their spouse or their children. EVERY SINGLE ONE. Now, my current co-workers are neither the boss  nor the co-workers I mentioned earlier.
I’m mentioning them to make a point – people can’t get through a day at work without mentioning their private lives.

In 29 states, you can be fired for being gay. Think about that – a productive worker can lose their job for being gay. There are people who say big deal. Then, don’t mention you’re gay. Or, I’ve heard the argument that a business owner should have the right to not hire someone.  Well,  it works both ways: if you can be fired for being gay, you van be fired for being straight.

  Congressman Steve King (R-IA) is proposing a Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell for the workplace, since it worked so well for the military.  And, that brings me back to my original premise: We all discuss our personal lives at work and we shouldn’t have to hide who we are.

We need to end workplace discrimination. We need to pass ENDA, so that you can’t be fired in any state.


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Happy National Coming Out Day!

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Today is National Coming Out Day.  This is the day when gay people are encouraged to come out to someone.  I do that everyday, as most gay people should.  When I started my new job, I put Cheryl’s picture up on my desk.  As my new co-workers would stop by, a few would ask about the picture.  I’d just tell them that she’s my wife.

Tammy Baldwin once said (and I’m paraphrasing) that if you want to live in a world where you can put a picture of your wife on your desk, put a picture of your wife on your desk and you live in that world.  In other words, come out, come out wherever you are.

Some straight people don’t understand the big deal.  They lie and tell you that their sexuality isn’t public and what’s the big deal.  What they don’t understand is that their sexuality is very much public.  They go into work and complain about their wife or brag about their kids – they “announce” that they are gay.

It’s funny or ironic.  Two of my current co-workers, whom I like very much, think that I am very prideful because I had no problem mentioning my wife.  Yet one of them is married and he doesn’t see that it isn’t prideful, he does the samething.  Don’t get me wrong, he’s a nice guy; he just doesn’t understand.

We’ve come a long way, but we still have a long way to go.  We can only get there if we come out.  Take a chance.

There is one more thing:  Why don’t we seriously get together and all stay home from work or school next year?  Instead of National Coming Out Day, we could have National Stay In Day.  I believe that it would do three things:

  1. It would show how many of us there are.
  2. and show how the straights couldn’t live without us.
  3. Watch all the homophobes show up for work, so no one would think they were gay!

So, National Stay In Day – who’s with me?

Little Boy Meets Gay Couple

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This little boy, Calen, meets a gay couple for the very first time.  His reaction is priceless and brought tears to my eyes.  “It means you guys love each other.”

Too bad the adults in this world don’t have the love and acceptance that this little guy has.

No Gay CupCakes

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Did you see the story about the bakery in a city run market that wouldn’t make rainbow color cupcakes for the gay student group? Here’s a quick video. Check out my blog on it for the full story.

We Give a Damn

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Do you care about equality?  Do you believe that if one person isn’t treated equally in this country, then we’re all not equal?  Do you give a damn?  Watch this video and then join We Give a Damn.  Or, hell, just join.

Iowa – Gay Marriage

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This is a video where the First Lady of Iowa tells how she came to support gay marriage.  Also, it shows Iowa House Speaker, Pat Murphy, discuss not only gay marriage in Iowa and how the Iowa Supreme Court ruled 7 -0 in support of it, but how Iowa has long been a supporter of Civil rights.  His part comes at the end, so I encourage you to watch to the very end.  I didn’t know that about Iowa.

National Organization for Marriage – NOM

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This video is about the National Organization for Marriage month long tour to save your marriage from the gay menace.  I have taken some quotes from the actual National Organization for Marriage website and blog.  Also, I owe a big thanks to Bil Browning over at The Bilerico Project.  I took the liberty of lifting some of the facts he had in his report about the protests in Indiana.  I hope you don’t mind, Bil.

In case you’re wondering where I obtained the names of the two people in my video – they are listed as the owners of the NOM website and blog.  I found the information on GoDaddy and WhoIs.