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Commuting with Julie – Donald Trump and the Gays…Plus, kitten video…

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I’m calling Donald Trump out on his lie to the American people regarding the rights of LGBTQ.  He said, “I will do everything in my power to protect our LGBTQ citizens from teh violence and oppression of a hateful foreign ideology.  Believe me.”

Oh, you can believe him.  He’ll keep the foreign hate away, but he is running on a GOP Platform that is (according to the AP) “farther away from gay rights than past years.”  He’s not going to stop the hate, bigotry, and harm committed against the LGBTQ community.

Sad, isn’t it?

Also, video of Ella, because she’s a kitten.

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Reading Challenge – Further Tales

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I remember the first time I read Further Tales of the City by Armistead Maupin. I was in my twenties, young and foolish, and just coming out of my closet. I didn’t know any people like the characters in the book, but I really wanted to know them. When I made the decision to read the book again, I felt the same way. I wish I could reach back through time and space and get to know everyone at Barbary Lane again. Thanks to this book, I can and I did.

I’m off to start the next book in the series, Babycakes.

Happy Reading!!!

AZ Ban On Gays

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AZ Governor Jan Brewer says she’ll do the right thing for her state, when asked about the passed bill allowing discrimination against gay people based on religious beliefs. That probably means she’ll sign it into law. Probably not the smartest move, but think about it – if people who support gays and gay people don’t go to AZ because of the ban, won’t that hurt their tourist industry? You would think those people would be speaking up.

You have to admit that the law is well written. You have to have a strong religious belief. That means the law can’t be used in the reverse. Who has a strong religious belief against straight people?

My final thought on the matter is this: why gays? I don’t like drug use – can I discriminate against someone who takes drugs? And, how will the owners know the difference between two lesbians with their children and two sisters with theirs?  There have been times when Cheryl and I have travelled with the boys that people have thought we were sisters. Or, since the boys are older, just two Grandmas out for the day. How are they going to know? Gay people don’t generally travel in packs with “I’m Gay” signs all over their bodies.

The legislature in Arizona is just pandering to the haters of their constituency. And, thankfully, that’s a dying breed.

Workplace Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

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I once had a boss tell me to stop talking about being gay.  I was confused by his request.  I rarely discuss being gay while at work. I had a couple of co-workers tell me that I was full of gay pride. More confusion.

It turns out in both cases my gay pride and my talking about being gay stemmed from the fact that a picture of Cheryl sits on my desk and if you ask me what I did this past weekend,  I’ll answer in the plural.

There are a lot of people who claim that they “support” gay rights, but we should just shut up about being gay.  To these people, a discussion that includes a mention of my wife counts as “gay talk”, but a discussion about their wife doesn’t count as “straight talk”.

This morning, I didn’t say a word to my co-workers other than a cheerful good morning. Every single one of them mentioned either their spouse or their children. EVERY SINGLE ONE. Now, my current co-workers are neither the boss  nor the co-workers I mentioned earlier.
I’m mentioning them to make a point – people can’t get through a day at work without mentioning their private lives.

In 29 states, you can be fired for being gay. Think about that – a productive worker can lose their job for being gay. There are people who say big deal. Then, don’t mention you’re gay. Or, I’ve heard the argument that a business owner should have the right to not hire someone.  Well,  it works both ways: if you can be fired for being gay, you van be fired for being straight.

  Congressman Steve King (R-IA) is proposing a Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell for the workplace, since it worked so well for the military.  And, that brings me back to my original premise: We all discuss our personal lives at work and we shouldn’t have to hide who we are.

We need to end workplace discrimination. We need to pass ENDA, so that you can’t be fired in any state.

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Happy National Coming Out Day!

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Today is National Coming Out Day.  This is the day when gay people are encouraged to come out to someone.  I do that everyday, as most gay people should.  When I started my new job, I put Cheryl’s picture up on my desk.  As my new co-workers would stop by, a few would ask about the picture.  I’d just tell them that she’s my wife.

Tammy Baldwin once said (and I’m paraphrasing) that if you want to live in a world where you can put a picture of your wife on your desk, put a picture of your wife on your desk and you live in that world.  In other words, come out, come out wherever you are.

Some straight people don’t understand the big deal.  They lie and tell you that their sexuality isn’t public and what’s the big deal.  What they don’t understand is that their sexuality is very much public.  They go into work and complain about their wife or brag about their kids – they “announce” that they are gay.

It’s funny or ironic.  Two of my current co-workers, whom I like very much, think that I am very prideful because I had no problem mentioning my wife.  Yet one of them is married and he doesn’t see that it isn’t prideful, he does the samething.  Don’t get me wrong, he’s a nice guy; he just doesn’t understand.

We’ve come a long way, but we still have a long way to go.  We can only get there if we come out.  Take a chance.

There is one more thing:  Why don’t we seriously get together and all stay home from work or school next year?  Instead of National Coming Out Day, we could have National Stay In Day.  I believe that it would do three things:

  1. It would show how many of us there are.
  2. and show how the straights couldn’t live without us.
  3. Watch all the homophobes show up for work, so no one would think they were gay!

So, National Stay In Day – who’s with me?