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Affordable Wedding Minister

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If you live in AZ – or, I guess any state where Susan Latimer operates – do yourself a favor and don’t do business with her. 

According to the article on Think Progress, Latimer worked for weeks with a lesbian couple, before realizing that they were gay and then refusing the business – citing religious reasons.  I have two issues with this:

1) You didn’t notice the people each had feminine names when you started?  You cancel after wasting weeks of their time?  You’re running a for-profit business, but you’re claiming religion?

2) Do you think Jesus would approve of your behavior?

I think Latimer should have asked right at the get go if this was a gay wedding and then she could’ve refused it.  I wouldn’t want a homophobe to perform my wedding.  To me, not asking, sounds very unprofessional.  There’s an out in the non-discrimination law that would have protected you.

BUT…

I don’t think Jesus Christ would want a minister to turn down the opportunity to bless the joining of two people in love.  Call me crazy, but He didn’t mention anything about gay people.  He did mention marriage, the part where you’re not supposed to get a divorce.  I wonder if Latimer refuses second marriages for divorce people?  That would be following a “religion”. 

She’s probably just making it up as she goes along, as most bigots do.

I want to make one last statement: I’m not saying that Latimer can’t run her business as she sees fit – go ahead and discriminate.  I just believe that if you’re going to do business with someone, you should know what kinds of morals and values they hold.  It is a consumer world and each of us should spend our money with companies and businesses that uphold our own values and ethics. 

If Latimer isn’t going to perform same sex marriages, I wouldn’t give her my money.  I’m making the suggestion that you don’t either.

$4,800.00

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Today is National Coming Out Day. I don’t celebrate it. I mean, who else is left for me to tell I’m a lesbian? My entire family knows, as do my friends, and my employer knew from day one – when I put a picture of Cheryl on my desk. Personally, I think this day should be National Stay Home Day. I think missing the 36 million gay Americans at work and school would make a larger impact, as we are everywhere.

Anyway, because of my feelings, I’ve decided to write about the $4,800.00 that will no longer be in my pocket once I cover Cheryl’s health insurance via my company’s domestic partnership policy. This is not money that pays for the insurance itself – this is the taxes taken straight from my paycheck because Cheryl and I cannot legally marry in our state and even if we could, the Federal Government won’t recognize it.

$4,800.00 may not sound like a lot of money, but think about the things we won’t be able to do with that money. $4,800.00 works out to $400 a month. That’s a car payment. $400 a month is ten tanks of gas. It’s ten visits to restaurants in Racine. It’s books and toys for our grandchildren. One month’s amount is a new smart phone.

Taxing my insurance coverage for Cheryl,  while not taxing a straight, married co-worker’s insurance coverage for their spouse isn’t right. It’s unfair taxation.

$4,800.00 a year will raise the total federal taxes on my income to over $12,000 a year. This is well above Mitt Romney’s tax rate of 14%.

I wonder how the people in charge can sleep at night by overtaxing American citizens. I know people who claim that I shouldn’t be a one issue voter, but they don’t get it. This isn’t just about receiving a legal document – this is about taking money out of my pocket unfairly and unjustly.

Smile Train

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It is charity day here at Top Of My Head Videos!  Below is a video of former President George H. W. Bush discussing the charity Smile Train.  Earlier today, I mentioned Smile Train on the blog page and I saw this video.  Thought it would a good addition to the videos here – might add some class to the place.

Please consider making a donation to this worthy cause.