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GOP and Marriage Equality

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The Supreme Court put an end to the marriage equality question and legalized it in all fifty states. In reply, the GOP Candidates for President collectively lost their heads. Scott Walker is calling for a Constitutional Amendment as well as saying the Supreme Court really didn’t have the power to do this. (Don’t any of these guys actually read the Constitution?) Bobby Jindal is calling to abolish the Court, while Mike Huckabee is calling for a revolution.

This is why I still can’t vote Republican. They are not the party of ideas. They are not the party of progress. They are the party of pandering. 60% of Republicans are against marriage equality, while 60% of the nation is for it. When that many people are against, what else can they say?

The sad part of this is that one of the far right, no new ideas candidates will become the GOP’S candidate for President. Any Democrat will look like a far left socialist in comparison. The GOP is the party of my youth. I loved Nixon and, had I been old enough, I would have supported Reagan. I admire Eisenhower and, next to Lincoln, Theodore Roosevelt is my favorite President. But, men like them can never lead the Republicans again. They were men of strong convictions and intellect.  They valued learning. Now, we have Scott Walker who couldn’t make it through college and doesn’t understand how the Supreme Court has the right to knock down unconstitutional laws. This is who the GOP wants running the country?

The GOP’S tired Gays, Guns, and God bit has to go. Not just in Presidential Candidates, but throughout all their politicians. The way Congress has spent the last six years fighting President Obama on every issue is insane. Their policy of repeating the same tired vote to eliminate the ACA is insane. Their calls for even lower taxes of the wealthy and corporations is insane. They refer to Social Security as an entitlement like it’s a bad thing. Jeb Bush blames single moms for welfare and pretty much the GOP follows along, totally ignorant to the fact that welfare doesn’t work that way anymore and hasn’t in almost twenty years. Walker, that bastion of no intellect is gutting the education of the state of Wisconsin.

Should I go on?

What I don’t understand is how any reasonable, intelligent adult could support the Republicans. How could you look at the problems of today and still support this group of men from the past?

The thought of it is insane.

Affordable Wedding Minister

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If you live in AZ – or, I guess any state where Susan Latimer operates – do yourself a favor and don’t do business with her. 

According to the article on Think Progress, Latimer worked for weeks with a lesbian couple, before realizing that they were gay and then refusing the business – citing religious reasons.  I have two issues with this:

1) You didn’t notice the people each had feminine names when you started?  You cancel after wasting weeks of their time?  You’re running a for-profit business, but you’re claiming religion?

2) Do you think Jesus would approve of your behavior?

I think Latimer should have asked right at the get go if this was a gay wedding and then she could’ve refused it.  I wouldn’t want a homophobe to perform my wedding.  To me, not asking, sounds very unprofessional.  There’s an out in the non-discrimination law that would have protected you.

BUT…

I don’t think Jesus Christ would want a minister to turn down the opportunity to bless the joining of two people in love.  Call me crazy, but He didn’t mention anything about gay people.  He did mention marriage, the part where you’re not supposed to get a divorce.  I wonder if Latimer refuses second marriages for divorce people?  That would be following a “religion”. 

She’s probably just making it up as she goes along, as most bigots do.

I want to make one last statement: I’m not saying that Latimer can’t run her business as she sees fit – go ahead and discriminate.  I just believe that if you’re going to do business with someone, you should know what kinds of morals and values they hold.  It is a consumer world and each of us should spend our money with companies and businesses that uphold our own values and ethics. 

If Latimer isn’t going to perform same sex marriages, I wouldn’t give her my money.  I’m making the suggestion that you don’t either.

Happy National Coming Out Day!

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Today is National Coming Out Day.  This is the day when gay people are encouraged to come out to someone.  I do that everyday, as most gay people should.  When I started my new job, I put Cheryl’s picture up on my desk.  As my new co-workers would stop by, a few would ask about the picture.  I’d just tell them that she’s my wife.

Tammy Baldwin once said (and I’m paraphrasing) that if you want to live in a world where you can put a picture of your wife on your desk, put a picture of your wife on your desk and you live in that world.  In other words, come out, come out wherever you are.

Some straight people don’t understand the big deal.  They lie and tell you that their sexuality isn’t public and what’s the big deal.  What they don’t understand is that their sexuality is very much public.  They go into work and complain about their wife or brag about their kids – they “announce” that they are gay.

It’s funny or ironic.  Two of my current co-workers, whom I like very much, think that I am very prideful because I had no problem mentioning my wife.  Yet one of them is married and he doesn’t see that it isn’t prideful, he does the samething.  Don’t get me wrong, he’s a nice guy; he just doesn’t understand.

We’ve come a long way, but we still have a long way to go.  We can only get there if we come out.  Take a chance.

There is one more thing:  Why don’t we seriously get together and all stay home from work or school next year?  Instead of National Coming Out Day, we could have National Stay In Day.  I believe that it would do three things:

  1. It would show how many of us there are.
  2. and show how the straights couldn’t live without us.
  3. Watch all the homophobes show up for work, so no one would think they were gay!

So, National Stay In Day – who’s with me?